Posts by cyberdyne systems 101

I too can't imagine what it would be like to live in a place you no longer belong or even want to be, but only you can be the one to make the move. I wish i could say the sooner you do it the sooner you will be moving on in your life, and this life is all we have so dont waste another day etc...But only you know when you are ready, its not for me to say what you should do, and i can certainly empathise with you.

I think like most of us the need to leave will become stronger than the need to stay. I also think the advice to prepare your way, with new friends and so on is excellent, how different things could have been for many of us if we had of made such preparations. I would have to say though despite the pain of losing everything you knew and having to rebuild, there is so much satisfaction from leaving the WTS, and I garantee you'll be saying to yourself 'I wish i'd done this earlier'

All the best

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BIG Moral Crisis.....

by justsomedude in

(if anything i write below is horrible offensive to anyone, please do me a favor and just ignore this post and dont tell me what rotten person i am and im going to hell or some such thing)

over the last few years ive had to change a great many views that ive previously been very emphatic about.

there are a number of things that are currently running through my head, the short list looks like this.

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I think its easy to forget how it makes you feel (ie. guilty and wrong) when you are put in that situation again. So now is the time to set your own boundaries over it, before the 'moment' comes again and you lose the will to do what you know is the right thing. Obviously you have crossed a line, and I for one think once its crossed its next to impossible to put the line back again.

My own advice is to cool it right off and have some time to let the feelings die down, only then may you be able to be friendly and not put yourself in a risky position again. Really though if you like somebody of the opposite sex, despite the fact that they are unavailable, your natural impulses will compel you to be with her. So maybe your only option will be to let her go and make another (available) friend - think about how cool that would be, someone you could really have a relationship with, and no guilt.

Good luck with it all

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Doctor Who, The Cybermen, The WTBTS and Cognitive Dissonance!!!!!

by Gill in

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a fantastic episode of dr who was on last night.. the doctor is having to get rid of the cybermen who are taking over the earth in a parallel universe.

their creator is, in his mind fighting disease, imperfection, death, by taking out people's brains, putting them into metal bodies that can never decay, and over riding their emotions.. the doctor asks the creator of the cybermen what point there will be in living and existing, if it was not for suffering and pain and death.

there would be nothing to strive for, nothing to overcome.

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I have to agree one of my favorite 'Tennant' episodes. I hadn't linked it to the WTBS, maybe that shows how far I have come from that loony asylum? Good ending for Micky too! And as far as fancying Mr Tennant, no certainly not! But i would agree he is a good looking bloke with cool clothes.

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JWs and the lack of high emotional states

by Lady Lee in

jws and the lack of high emotional states

the wts capitalizes on a couple of mood states.

the biggest is fear.

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An Elder once took me aside and said: 'we'd like to see you being more serious, as we've noted you seem to laugh after the meetings when associating with people' !

I was a complete emotional wreck after coming out and I obviously share a lot with others here who have had to re build/learn, how to feel things again, going from being completely shut down and not feeling anything to having such high's and low's.

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<thoughts> Having left just the JW's "cult" or some more to?

by spiceant in

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i have read a lot of text and story's about people that leave the jw's and this appears to be pretty much all that's being talked about.. i assume you believe that you have done right by your opposing stand to the jw's because you believe you have been done evil (or have seen jw's do evil) and probably right so.

do you people still pray to jehova and study the bible (on your own for once) as to get to know jehova's purpose for us?.

i wonder about this because i fear that you might "revert" back to the common western culture (assuming you live in one because you'r after all reading this over the internet) which i appal and detest in very many of its motivational aspects (that is, the motivations of its people) that are crudely speaking, selfish and ultimately, in the generations long run destructive.

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'And for reference, if i havent been understandable, in my opinion America (and the western culture to a lesser extend) is the great babylon epicenter along with 99.95% of its population and this thought kindoff saddens me.'

Funny that the Bible Students (JW's) started in that very epicenter!

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Were you a Jehovahs Witness snob?

by plmkrzy in

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there were always snobs in every congregation i ever attended my entire life.

when i was a teen and attempted to associate with other teens that were daughters of elders, because it was what my parents wanted, i had the hardest time trying to find anything at all to talk about.

for the most part all they wanted to do was gossip about others in the congregation and boast about their personal triumphs in field service or even worse; lets rehearse for our ministry school assignment.

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I wasn't the snob type as i was a weaker one, but I still had my judgemental side, more cause I was doing stuff i didnt want to when others didnt - seemed so unfair to me!

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What's the best way to let someone down gently?

by ballistic in

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i'm so used to getting dumped myself, now the situation is reversed i'm not sure what to say.

i don't want to do the chicken shit thing and ignore her.

i think she is a vulnerable girl.

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Never an easy one is it, I think you can either be very direct and say you see no future in this or when talking to her say things that imply your not intending to settle down and want to go out with different friends and so on. Perhaps you can use some of the let downs that have been used on you in the past?

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